What would you say - to a just-bereaved person?

I used to shy away from recently-bereaved people - I didn't know what to say. But it seems that my increasing age, and 15 years of end-of-life involvement, have made me better equipped for the situation.

A friend of mine died on the morning of Christmas Eve, and my friend's husband contacted me in the afternoon. At the end of my brief condolences, I said something which must have popped-up from my subconscious. While I was shaving this morning, I consciously concluded '... that is perhaps the most useful thing you can say to any adult who has just been bereaved'.

So, is what I ended with, the most useful thing that you can say to an adult who has just been bereaved - opinions, please.

I ended with this:

TRY TO BE KIND TO YOURSELF