Supporting Your Loved One with Dementia this Christmas

Christmas is a time of the year many look forward to. A holiday full of joy, warmth, and togetherness. But for some, it’s a time that requires a little more preparation and consideration than most.

900,000 people (opens new window) are living with dementia in the UK today. For families caring for relatives with this diagnosis, special occasions such as Christmas can be a testing, and emotional period.

These are Dignity in Care's top tips for reducing stress, and offering compassionate support for those living with dementia, during the festive period.

1. Keep Routine

Routine (opens new window) acts as a comfort blanket for those living with dementia. The predictability of day-to-day events reduces confusion and minimises stress. This Christmas, aim to keep routines as consistent as possible amongst the mince pie eating and carol singing. Sticking to regular mealtimes, sleep patterns, and well-known activities creates sense of familiarity and makes a world of difference.

2. Simplify Celebrations

As much as we like to pull out all the stops for a special occasion, for someone with dementia, large gatherings can be overwhelming. Try to create a peaceful environment that isn't overstimulating. It’s tempting to get carried away with elaborate decorations, but too much environmental change can cause confusion. Keep party sizes intimate and keep a quiet cosy space for them to retreat to if needed.

3. Have Fun

Inclusion’s the secret ingredient of the holiday spirit. Invite your loved one to join in the festive activities (opens new window). Start by decorating the house, or baking gingerbread biscuits. Even wrapping gifts with bows and pretty paper can be enjoyable. A huge sense of purpose and sense of self-worth can be found through participation. It’s not about creating a picture-perfect Christmas, it's about everyone sharing the same experience.

4. Give Thoughtful Gifts

Heartfelt gifts that hold memories are appreciated by everyone, but they can be extra special for someone with dementia. Consider a photo album filled with cherished moments you hold close to your heart. Compile a playlist of their favourite songs or think of sensory gifts like soft blankets and aromatic lotions. These presents can help spark a thought and will be loved by your recipient.

5. Practise Patience and Understanding

Dementia may cloud memories, but our patience and understanding can light up their world. Calmly answer their questions, no matter how small or repetitive they may be. If they're mistaken about something, avoid correcting them and offer reassurance instead. You’ll help them feel safe and secure by treating them with dignity.

6. Reminisce Together

Sharing old memories with someone with dementia can be a beautiful gift in itself. Dedicate some one-on-one time with your relative to tell your favourite stories and reminisce about past Christmases. It's also a great excuse to dig out the old family photo albums or listen to familiar music. You'll be able to show appreciation for your loved one in these shared moments.

7. Seek Support

Know that it’s okay to recognise when you're struggling. Seek dementia support services (opens new window) if you feel that you need special assistance. Reaching for help is not a sign of weakness, or failure. Dementia trained staff are on hand for a reason, so be sure to utilise their skills whenever you need it. There is no reason to feel that you must face any difficulties alone.

A Final Thought

Every family deserves a Christmas filled with happiness and laughter. No matter the circumstances, everybody can be included and join in the festive fun.

At Dignity in Care, we understand that looking after a loved one with dementia can be difficult. We believe that by being considerate and supportive in the best way you can is the best gift possible. We want to say ‘thank you’ for all that you do and wish you and your family a very merry Christmas.

Written by: Holly Dodd (opens new window)